In general, bed-sharing is not recommended. During the first year of life, it can be harmful to sleep with your baby. If the adult mattress is soft, your baby can suffocate. In fact, the rate of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) for infants is higher for babies sleeping in an adult bed compared to a crib. In addition, there are about 100 deaths per year in the US from parents accidentally laying on and suffocating their children while sleeping. The risk is highest if one of the parents has a deep sleep disorder or drinks excessively.
Although it's not harmful for your older children to sleep with you, it's unnecessary and it may cause problems for you. Once begun, it's a rather hard habit to break, so consider the following before you allow your child to start sharing your bed:
Most children in our country do just fine with these guidelines.
If you are sharing your bed with your child and want to stop, here are some suggestions:
Expect some crying. Young children normally cry when they don't get their way. But continue to be firm and you will win back the privacy of your bed.