A trip to the hospital can be scary for anyone, particularly for a child. Separation from loved ones, unfamiliarity with the hospital setting, frightening hospital equipment, and unpleasant medical procedures are major sources of stress for children. In addition, because children do not understand the nature of their illness, they may believe hospitalization is their own fault. They sometimes view pain and other physical symptoms as the result of being "bad", and their hospitalization as "punishment" for their misbehavior.
There are some things you can do to help your child deal with a trip to the hospital (except for sudden illnesses or accidents).
For 2 and 3 year-olds, start talking about the hospital 2 or 3 days ahead of time. If your child is between 4 and 5 years old, 4 to 7 days is best. Children over 7 should become involved in the planning process several weeks before going to the hospital.
Let your child pack, select toys, and plan fun activities to give the child a feeling of control.
Talking about what happens to another child or storybook character who is in a hospital is reassuring. It also helps correct mistaken beliefs your child may have. Reading about the main character leaving the hospital is very comforting.
Ask your child's healthcare provider to help explain why certain procedures will be done and what will happen. Answer your child’s questions honestly. Give them as much information as they can understand about why they are going to the hospital and what may happen while they are there. Children may make up stories if they don’t have the real facts.
With a young child, use a doll, puppet, or stuffed animal to show how medical procedures such as X-rays and injections are done. Give your child a toy medical kit, so they can get familiar with these items. Encourage the child to use the medical equipment on a stuffed animal or doll. Your child will be more cooperative and less stressed if he knows what to expect and how long a procedure might hurt.
Being familiar with hospital rooms, equipment, and the people who work there makes it less scary.
Talk about your feelings with a trusted family member, friend, pastor or professional. When your child is in the hospital, you may feel helpless, fearful, angry, and guilty. It is best to try to help your child when you feel well prepared and in control of your emotions.
Brothers and sisters are affected when a family member goes to the hospital. Siblings may feel guilty, jealous, and anxious. Involve them in hospital tours, demonstrations, and reading books.
Your child's greatest fear is being separated from mother and father. Visit often, sleep in a chair, or see if you can stay with your child overnight. An older child may appear quite casual about your visits, but craves them nonetheless. Invite grandparents and siblings to visit to give you a break without leaving your sick child alone. Parents need to eat, sleep, and relax to keep their energy up. Taking time for themselves helps parents be able to provide love and support for children.
Do not try to sneak away while your child is sleeping or doing something else. Instead, make your leave-taking short and visible. If your child sleeps a lot, let them know that you may leave once they go to sleep. Tell your child when you will return. Even though your child may cry, he or she will continue to trust you.
Family photos, recorded stories or messages, cards, phone calls, and cuddly toys all provide comfort and security. They reassure your child that he or she is loved and not forgotten.
Let the people who are taking care of your child know a little bit about your child's favorite sports or hobbies, best friends, or special interests. This helps the nurses make the hospital stay feel more personal and comfortable for your child.
An older child may act brave, but do not be fooled. Children of all ages find hospitals distressing, and need plenty of love and attention. Ask to meet with the child life specialist. They are specialists who provide developmental, educational and therapeutic support to children while they are in the hospital. The hospital Social Worker can help with resources and referrals to other professionals who can help your child once they return home. All hospitals have chaplains on staff to help patients and families with their spiritual and religious needs while hospitalized.
Help your child sort out feelings about the hospital visit by talking about bad and good events.
As your child readjusts to being home, he or she may be more demanding and dependent. Provide extra hugs, kisses, and words of encouragement.
Avoid statements like, "If you don't get enough sleep, you'll wind up in the hospital again." A statement such as this only creates anxiety and guilt.