Anger is a natural emotion. It’s often a response to feeling threatened, mistreated, or blocked from reaching a goal. Anger can be healthy when it gives energy to correct wrongs. But anger that is out of control can be dangerous for your child and for others.
Being a parent is a tough job. It can be stressful and lasts 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Stresses such as job, marriage, or money seem worse when you have a crying baby who does not sleep much. Babies and young children are very demanding. This can be hard to deal with, especially if you have no one to turn to for a break from the kids. Relatives may live far away and you may not know neighbors well enough to ask for help.
Many parents feel angry when they are stressed. When there are serious problems within a family, everyone in the family may feel angry much of the time. The anger can become a big problem, and guilt about it can add to the problem. Most people who hit their children in anger feel more stress than they can handle.
Managing anger does not mean that you never feel angry or that you hold in your anger and never express it. Learning to manage anger means:
Healthy ways to deal with anger include:
If you are afraid that you or someone else will hit, shake, or otherwise hurt your child, call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233. You can get in touch with a local support group in your area by contacting: