Calling a child who is not good in school "dummy," one who is not athletic "clumsy," or one who has a bedwetting problem "smelly." These derogatory comments can be harmful to the self-esteem, especially if they are true.
"Teasing and name-calling are not allowed, because they are unfair and hurt someone's feelings."
Parents should avoid teasing as well.
Children report their siblings' or others' misbehavior to get them into trouble, a form of one-upmanship.
"Don't tell me about your brother's misbehavior unless it's dangerous. It hurts your friendship." This rule is based on the premise that bad news gets around, and if it's important, you'll hear about it.
Give verbal disapproval, "I don't want to hear about it." You can also remind your child, "Tattletales don't have friends," and "Brothers are supposed to stand up for each other."
Praise your child for looking after, standing up for, or telling you something good about his sibling or friend.
Be supportive of others and avoid gossip.
"Don't grab toys that other people are playing with."
Use logical consequences and return the toy immediately to the child who owns it or had it. Never let the aggressive child keep a toy he or she has taken away. If the misbehavior recurs, use time-out.
Praise your child for asking another child if he or she may use a toy, and also for returning a toy when requested.
Children can't be expected to share toys until age 3 or 4. Generosity has to be the child's decision. But you can plant the idea with statements such as, "If you share with other children, they will usually share with you."
A child should not be punished for not sharing his or her toys. Some problems can be prevented by allowing your child to take only one toy to the playground until she reaches an age where she can share. When she's not playing with her toy, pick it up so that other children won't take possession of it. For toys that belong to the family rather than an individual, temporarily put them away if two children can't take turns with them.
Praise your child for any sharing. Encourage your child to share.
Share in your home. Share your food, drink, and possessions with your child. Lend household items to friends. Mention to your child that this is sharing.
Some children are bossy and dominant with their friends, causing the friends to leave unhappily. Others show off so much that their friends find them boring. Others are poor sports or bad losers and try to change the rules of a game or sport.
Natural consequences. Peer pressure will eventually shape your child's behavior into what is acceptable in the peer group. In the meantime your child will lose some friends until he or she has learned how to treat other children better. Occasionally ask your child, "What could you do to be a better friend?" Overall, let peers work out these disagreements themselves.
Praise your child for being courteous, agreeable, and a good sport about losing.
Stop being critical and bossy of your child if this applies. Don't argue with referees at your child's athletic events.